A little slip of the finger can bring a whole lot of enjoyment to us ladies.
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I?ll never forget the first time a man slipped his hand into my pants and started using his fingers to rub me.
I was only seventeen, in the back of a dark Ford Explorer with a guy named Matthew that I?d met on the internet scandalously back in 1999, and I almost shrieked with the electric-like shock that zinged through my body when my clit was touched by someone else for the first time.
To this day nothing makes me more wet and turned on than having someone?s fingers all over and inside my lady bits.
Just thinking about it makes my panties damp.
I suppose part of it comes from years of masturbation and learning how to touch myself to come to an orgasm, although I?ve never been able to bring myself to orgasm by fingering inside my vagina ? only men have been able to do that for me.
Why?
It just feels so naughty.
As children we are taught to keep our ?private parts? to ourselves and to only let trusted people like parents and doctors look at or touch them with consent.
When a man slides his hand down my pants or slips my panties out of the way to get a finger inside of me, I practically pant with excitement.
Sometimes, I think, the things we are shamed for or taught to be ashamed about when we are kids are the things that end up being our kinks and the things we like doing most in bed.
I was told by my grandmother at a young age to ?keep my fingers off myself? and ?don?t touch yourself down there, it?s dirty!? and those comments stuck with me throughout my life.
So, the first time, and most times since when I?ve been fingered, I?ve felt a bit like I was doing something wrong, something naughty, and bucking against fingers and those mental constructs, I was able to turn it into one of the most pleasurable and sensual sexual experiences for myself.
I grew and learned that there?s nothing wrong with a hand down your pants as long as you consent to it, and thank god for that.
It?s the woman?s version of a hand job.
Just like a lot of men like to be whacked off by their partner, so do women like to be masturbated by someone else.
The combination of a finger massaging my clit while being finger banged is not something I?ve been able to replicate successfully on my own, so I am all for it when my partner takes it into his own hands to get me off.
Yes, there is a learning curve.
You can?t just thrust a bunch of dry fingers into a vagina and think that will be cool.
It takes some foreplay (and makes great foreplay) before you go all in with your fingers or, if it?s your thing, fist.
There are few feelings I love more than a man?s finger slipping in and out of my vagina and rubbing my clit with my own juices, but please, be gentle, be sensual about it.
For some women like me, nothing else will get us in the mood like the electric touch of a wet finger gently massaging my clit.
It can get really kinky if you let it.
Admittedly, I find that a good fingering is the best way to get off quickly and while on the go? cause you can do it almost anywhere and if you?re lucky, you?ll never get caught.
I?ve been fingered on a train to New York City by the love of my life.
I?ve had my panties pushed aside and a finger slipped into me while riding an elevator.
I nearly came after being fingered so delicately and gently in a booth in the middle of a restaurant.
It only takes a second for a finger to slip into your wet folds and turn you on, and there are few things that excite me more than getting sexy out in public.
Give fingering a chance.
It may seem basic. It may seem like what high schoolers do when they can?t figure out how to do anything else, but it?s so, so much more than that for some people ? like it is to me.
Be spontaneous!
Slip a finger in while you?re watching TV, while your standing at the kitchen counter, while you?re shopping at the grocery store if you so dare?
You may appreciate those little phalanges a lot more if you do.
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