Sex is and always has been a fascinating subject to ponder upon and especially anal sex, having its pros and cons climbing the social ladder. Throughout my life, I?ve often found myself mesmerized by the various types of expression of sex. The many ways with which we show our affection for others, the slight touches. However, I always wonder why do we want the things that we want?
I?ve often wondered about why and how anal sex practices came to be, and how people leave out no exception. What is it that compels people to practice the types of sex habits that they do and do they actually love it or its just simple pressure?
The History of Anal Sex
Anal sex and other forms of anal play are cross-cultural practices, definitely not a modern invention and has been around now for a while.
Civilizations all over the world seem to have used the anus as an object from which to derive sexual pleasure.
We can trace the history of anal sex back quite far, as far back as the first civilization itself. There are surviving pieces of erotica which date back to 4,000 years ago from ancient history stating it?s always been a source of pleasure but has this history now started to pressure people into doing it?
Fantasy
While anal sex has always been an extremely popular fantasy with its existing pros and cons in the minds of men everywhere. It?s becoming a much more popular practice in the west, making it the new oral sex; anal sex is quickly becoming popular enough to be a staple in the sex lives of many bedrooms, another regular expression thrown into the overall mix of love.
Why is Anal Sex Desirable?
Quite simply, men generally like to look at women?s butts, behinds, asses, so it would make sense that they?d generally like to touch them as well. The anus is capable of being sexualized just as much as well as other things. Such as breasts, feet, hair, and other parts that people seem fascinated with a sexual way and wanting to touch it.
Many men have reported that there?s something ?raw? and ?exciting? about anal sex that isn?t quite the same in vaginal sex. There is no possibility of pregnancy resulting from anal sex, which could be a reason enough. However, this resonates with many men who consider it more primal, just done for the sheer pleasure of it without even a hint of being something more, nothing at all.
Some men report that the fact that it?s considered or thought of as a ?forbidden fruit,? a fruit that tempts many to do it.
The fact
The simple fact that it?s ?wrong? is a powerful motivator in the most biological way only!
Intimacy a connect is a big draw for a lot of people as well, both women and men. When it comes to the anus, there is often a sense of hesitancy and reservation, always. And by consenting to anal play, it?s a way for many people to communicate to their partner that they?re all in. A way to communicate that not a single part of their body is off-limits.
Power Dynamics
The potential for both pain and pleasure on the behalf of the recipient of anal sex naturally is in heavy into power-play, BDSM, dominant and submissive relationships, etc. For many recipients, the pain is where the magic is. They enjoy submitting to pain to please their partners and actually get off on it. For others, they derive a great deal of pleasure from having a little back door sex.
And some people just cannot achieve orgasm without the rear being stimulated.
Anal sex, in a very different way, allows people to be vulnerable like they?ve never been before with one another. And, whether their partner engages in hurting them or not, is a thing of their choosing and pure want.
Analingus
Believe it or not, analingus, the oral-anal act of touching the anus with the tongue, is way more popular than actual anal sex, Yeah didn?t see that coming did you?
Analingus is popular for the same reasons anal sex is. In that it?s taboo, ?nasty?, and extremely intimate and so highly preferred. It?s a way for some partners to taste the very essence of another, and for the practitioners of it, this is extremely enjoyable and daily practice.
Fingers
For men, it stimulates the prostate if done correctly and can lead to unparallel pleasure. And for women, it?s a cute way of enjoying the fruits of anal sex, without the risk of pain involved as well and slowly getting used to this. Even after knowing the pros and cons of anal sex.
Fingerplay is the least invasive and arguably least intimate, which is likely why it?s the most preferred.
Love It or Hate It
When it comes to ALL forms of anal sex with its pros and cons people have preferences. When men have not performed anal intercourse, they?re extremely unlikely to have engaged in another form of anal play at all. However, once they have they want it all.
This means that there?s a divide between those who love the ass and those who hate it.
There are very few people out there who?ve actually tried a little bit of anal play and not gone for the whole package.
And having anal sex, stopping in the middle is never an option for some. What?s a super hard limit for some is a source of great pleasure for others. And like many things in life, it?s up to the individuals involved as to what their preferences are.
The Evolution of Anal Sex
As for anal sex, it?s a pleasurable activity that just happens to be a byproduct of our sexual needs. We are much more than replicating machines, we?re human beings with wants and cravings. With thoughts feelings, ideas, and we?re capable of obtaining deeper experiences. And just because anal has become and regular act you as an individual don?t have to be pressured into doing it.
While anal sex with its existing pros and cons is still very much relegated to certain bedrooms. It?s increasing popularity among heterosexual couples is undeniable.
However, you?re the one who decides what is pleasurable for you and if it?s just something that you were pressured into!
Originally published at https://www.dkoding.in on November 8, 2019.
