You Cannot Pour from an Empty Cup

You Cannot Pour from an Empty Cup

Why self-care is vital and how to practice it

?Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel.?

-Eleanor Brown

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It is widely quoted and accepted that you can?t pour from an empty cup. But how many of us actively practice replenishing ourselves? I recently facilitated a retreat for women, and in speaking to the women individually, what I discovered was that the biggest factor that they had to overcome to go on the retreat was the guilt! Guilt for taking the time for themselves and guilt using money exclusively on themselves.

We, especially women it seems, have difficulty taking time for ourselves and prioritizing self-care. It often takes an illness or an accident to persuade us to give ourselves the time and care we need.

In an article by Dr. Susan Biali in Psychology Today, Biali describes feeling incredibly unwell, but continuing to push herself. She had an epiphany, that although she had been teaching people about stress management and self-care for over a decade, she had not been practicing what she preached. She explained that when she finally took time out for herself, it felt like she had woken up after being asleep for a long time. But it?s only when you wake up that you notice you were sleeping!

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But when we are stressed out, self-care is often the first thing we let go of.

Why is that? Barbara Markway, Phd explains in a different article in Psychology Today a few reasons that that is the case.

  1. Our brains go into fight-or-flight mode and our perspective narrows.

2. We?re so busy trying to solve problems that we?re stuck in ?doing mode

3. We may not have a ?go to? list of self-care activities.

So once we wake up, so to speak, how do we practice self-care, what can we put on our list of self-care activities. For those of us that can, a retreat is a lovely way to have time and space for self. But if that is not an option at the moment, here are a few suggestions:

Focus on the sensations around you ? sights, smells, sounds ? this helps you be present in the moment.

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Go for a walk and breathe in fresh air.

Listen to running water.

Take a hot shower or a warm bath.

Do something pleasurable for yourself.

Get creative! Do some art, journal or play some music


Take yourself out for a nice meal

Give yourself some spiritual space

Practice gratitude ? journal about things your are grateful for

Light a candle and meditate

Walk in nature

Connecting with others is an important part of self-care.

Go on a lunch date with a good friend.

Call a friend on the phone.

Join a support group.

Caroline Myss asks us: ?How do you define taking care of yourself?? Think about that and then as Myss suggest: Create a new self-care practice, starting today!

Remember what Audre Lorde says ? self-care is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation. Take care of yourself, start today, you are worth it!

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