A safe and sexy AF guide to any virtual scenario
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I met Steve online last summer when I was still quite into dating and hooking up. We were in two different countries but I happened to be travelling to his city quite often.
We exchanged flirty messages and we hit it off immediately. He was fun and charming and even though we quickly moved our conversation to Whatsapp, he never got too pushy or aggressive. No dick pic, no pushing for nudes.
We scheduled a date in a few weeks and unfortunately he had to cancel because of some work emergency. When he got home late in the evening I was already asleep so we couldn?t meet. He suggested a morning quickie but I wanted a full night, not just a 15-minute relief.
We scheduled another date and that flopped as well, for I wasn?t staying in a hotel at the time and I couldn?t have him over in the shared flat I stayed.
We had long hours of sexting and chatting that night, with lengthy descriptions of what we would do to each other if we were together. He has a way with words and has quite a vivid imagination and even if I wasn?t yet writing sexy articles I was quite good at virtually teasing him. We went to sleep satisfied and we called it a day.
We lost sight of each other for a few months and I thought we mutually ghosted each other. So I was pleasantly surprised to get a text from him earlier this year, reminding me how hot that night was. He told me he was still overworked and underfucked and all I could say was me too.
When the social distancing started I started to reach out to people in my address book. I reached out to childhood friends scattered all across the globe and long forgotten crushes and lovers to make sure they were okay with no hidden agenda.
I texted Steve how he was and knowing he had family in Italy I asked him how they were holding up in the chaos. All is in order, everyone?s safe. He told me he was exhausted as he has been working on securing critical infrastructure ? to keep the systems running. Overworked and underfucked ? more than ever.
We chatted some ? agreeing that sex is the last thing on our list, there are so many other things to worry about that pleasure seems overrated. He asked me if I was still writing sexy articles but I told him that I really haven?t been in the mood for it.
He told me that he was just trying to stay afloat and stay sane and I offered him if he ever needed to vent or talk, I?m here.
?My most welcome distraction would be a good blowjob.?
I sighed. I miss that too. But we are far apart. In social isolation. And we weren?t sharing pictures or videos, it was more just innuendo and sexy chatting and virtual role play.
?I could give you a virtual blowjob?? I offered. And he told me he?d love that, if it?s not a video of me sucking on a banana.
I told him I meant a very detailed description that would make him moan. He told me he wants that but I need to make sure that I enjoy it too.
Him being such a gentleman about it made me want to do it even more. So I did. I wrote a full script of how I would go down on him. And I thought to make a guide of it for anyone who wants to have text based virtual sex while social distancing.
Get inspired and get in the mood
Start with thinking back on your own experiences, recall them as detailed as you can. It doesn?t have to be an all-nighter, just focus on one specific memorable event that can serve as an inspiration.
Watch some videos if you want to. I did, because he sent me one of his favourites and I wanted to see what he likes so I can tailor the experience to his taste.
I was already getting pretty aroused just by one of my own experiences who was praising me for my skills endlessly but the video was the cherry on the top.
I was already quite wet when I started to write and that helps a lot to enjoy it.
Set the scene
Even if it?s a specific scene that you do, don?t just jump into it. After all, ?I pulled down your pants and sucked you until you came.? is not exactly virtual sex. So just take it slow and set the scene.
Describe the situation, come up with something naughty or risqu if that?s your thing. This is virtual, time to live out you exhibitionism without getting caught.
Describe your body and what you wear. Describe what they wear and how they look at you. Men might be visual creatures and more into pictures than words, but if you can weave a nice story with them as the hero, you?ll surely have their attention.
You control the scene and it?s up to you. Be creative and bold. Nothing to lose here.
Describe what you?d do
Describe in great detail what you do. Not just the actual sex act, but also how you turn your head, how you caress them, where else you touch them.
One of the sexiest part of a blowjob is when you put your hair up in a pony-tail ir you put your hands behind your back and let him take control. Don?t let out the details because just as in any writing, these are the nuggets that make it real and credible.
Write how you love what you see, write it freely, no one will correct you if you are describing them better than they are. It?s your scene, write the hell out if it without thinking!
Write down how you gulp in anticipation or how you are licking your lips before getting to it. Virtual sex is storytelling at it?s best ? real-time teasing from a distance.
Describe how you feel and how they feel
The most important part is how they make you feel ? even if it?s virtual. Write about the hardness and smoothness. Write about touch and taste and smell.
Write about the sensations running through your body, how you are getting aroused and use your real feelings ? the tingling, the hard nipples, the hunger for their body.
Be as explicit or subtle as you want ? make it as innocent or dirty as you wish. If you are down for something dirty, write about the dripping saliva, the smeared mascara while giving a blowjob. Or leave it out ? it?s up to you. I prefer the honest dirty way. Because it turns me on bigtime.
You are in control, you decide on the outcome. In a blowjob scene, you decide if you swallow or not. You decide if you deep throat or not ? without worrying about the gag reflex.
Collect the applause
Describe how they are enjoying it. Describe their reaction and ask them to describe how they would go on ? and gonon if you still have the stamina to write some more.
Get them praise you for your virtual skills and use their time of reaction to touch yourself. It?s anazing how writing about sex can be arousing.
Make it personal
Always make it personal. Don?t copy it to someone else because the journey is about writing it and imagining it. It?s not taking someone?s well-written erotica piece and pasting it to a messaging app. It is about creating the experience on the go.
Make sure you enjoy it
Write it in a way that you enjoy it. Just as a regular blowjob, it?s not a chore. You should enjoy it because that makes it genuine. The best compliment I ever got for one of my blowjobs was how much he loved watching how I enjoyed it. And I really did. I wanted to do it. This should be the case with the virtual one as well.
Optional: Make it interactive and let them contribute
I was writing it on the go, and he was just reading it and signalled that he was there. As I was typing I imagined him sitting and fixing his eyes on the screen. He never once went offline. I had his full attention.
You can make it interactive by interjecting questions and let your partner decide about the next turn of events. I was in a flow so I didn?t do that now, but it?s a great way esoecially if it?s a more elaborate scene when both parties are describing their actions.
Conclusion
I miss giving blowjobs. I miss the real feeling. I miss the taste, the smell, the texture. I miss being in control of the other?s pleasure. I miss hearing them moan.
I wouldn?t go for any substitute, not going to lick and suck a dildo or a banana (as Steve joked) because I miss the sensation of a cock attached to a real man, in my mouth, not merely a phallic shape.
As I don?t have anyone in-house, who we already fluid-bonded with, sharing my quarantine days with me, I?m not breaking my social distancing for sex or a blowjob. That would be irresponsible and reckless and completely losing the point of the lockdown.
And I am looking into quite a few weeks without even the opportunity to enjoy it IRL. But with this experience, I know that just writing about it, imagining it and sharing it with someone to the tiniest detail is exceptionally arousing and sexy as fuck. I got my share of pleasure during and after it ? and according to his reactions he enjoyed it just as much.
Is it better than the real thing? Of course not. But we are surviving here and it?s not half bad for that.
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