Every piece of personal or professional growth you achieve in life starts with one thing: Self-knowledge.
Lao Tzu, the ancient Chinese philosopher, who lived in the 6th century BC, put it best:
?He who knows others is wise; he who knows himself is enlightened.?
Whether you want to make a million bucks, build a strong relationship with your partner, or get in the best shape of your life???you can?t improve yourself without knowing yourself.
Self-knowledge is a skill, not a trait, talent, or divine insight. I used to live my life without one bit of introspection. Naturally, I had no idea who I was. Now, I?m getting better at it with practice. And the impact on my life has been huge.
I believe that knowing yourself is the key skill that predicts happiness and success in life.
So I?ve made a list of 12 books that have helped me to know myself. I hope they will serve you too.
The book?s description starts with, ?The path to your professional success starts with a critical look in the mirror.? I can?t agree more.
This HBR collection also includes one of my all time favorite pieces on self-awareness, Managing Oneself by Peter Drucker. It also includes another article that I?ve found very useful: ?How Will You Measure Your Life?? by Clayton M. Christensen.
This collection does not disappoint. Every piece will make you think more about your mission, vision, strengths, weaknesses, and how you can advance your career.
2. Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman
In today?s world, it?s probably not you IQ that?s going to make you successful ? it?s your EQ. Daniel Goleman is the key expert when it comes to emotional intelligence.
Most people think emotional intelligence is about managing other people?s emotions.
Well, there?s something that?s more important: Identifying and managing your own emotions. I believe that you can?t be an effective leader without EQ. This book helps you to get better at it.
3. Ego Is The Enemy by Ryan Holiday
This is one of my favorite books of the past year. No other person could have written this book better than Ryan Holiday.
He has an impressive career. And a lot of bragging rights. But if you follow his work (which I?ve been doing for three years), you can tell he is a humble person who lets his work speak for him.
To me, that?s the perfect example of someone who has his ego in check. Because we have to be real, everyone has an ego. The question is: How do you manage it? Ego Is The Enemy helps you to do that.
4. Become What You Are by Alan Watts
A collection of 20 essays by Alan Watts. His work was greatly inspired by Zen. And I think that Zen is a great source of internal knowledge.
I?ve tried reading different things about Zen. Watt?s writing is clear, practical, and beautiful. That makes it easier to read and think about. When you apply all the advice in this book, you?ll learn more about yourself and others.
5. I Like Myself! by Karen Beaumont
I usually stick to books for grown-ups. But I just couldn?t resist mentioning this book here. One of my friends bought this book for his daughter a while back. And he loved the book as much as his daughter did.
I checked it out and it?s actually really fun. I can imagine that kids would love it too. It?s a great way to teach kids self-awareness.
I wish I had this book by Karen Beaumont as a child. So if you have kids, buy this book. And if you don?t have kids, get it for your family or friends who do.
6. The Gifts of Imperfection by Bren Brown
I only recently read Bren Brown?s book. I?d seen some of her videos and interviews and always appreciated her calm approach.
This book is exactly that. The Gifts of Imperfection helps you to understand that you?re good enough. We?re often too hard on ourselves. And that?s detrimental for our self-awareness.
When you learn that you have nothing to prove, you actually start living.
7. Grinding It Out by Ray Kroc
Do you feel bad that you haven?t caught your big break yet? If so, read this book. You?ll feel different about it. Ray Kroc, who turned McDonald?s into a billion-dollar business, had to wait until his fifties to find some form of success.
It?s not only an inspirational story. It also helps you to put things in perspective. That?s a key aspect of self-awareness. It?s also good to read the perspective of a businessman. You can?t make a living by meditating all day.
8. The Effective Executive by Peter Drucker
It?s no secret I?m a fan of Drucker. This book provides a practical perspective on productivity that I think every knowledge worker should read.
The most important lessons I?ve learned about work is this: It?s not about what you do, it?s about the results you get. That?s the difference between efficiency and effectiveness.
Sending 100 emails per hour might be very efficient use of your time. But what results does it bring you? That?s what matters the most.
9. What They Don?t Teach You at Harvard Business School by Mark H. McCormack
Even though I like scientific research, there are things science can?t teach you.
In this book, McCormack shares everything that people in business schools or companies will never tell you. He talks office politics, standing up for yourself, getting results, job-boredom, and making things happen.
The best thing? McCormack is street smart. His knowledge came from experience. And it?s still relevant.
10. Notes To Myself by Hugh Prather
This book was recommended to me last year by a reader. Prather was a minister. When I first learned about that, I didn?t think I could relate to the book. But I gave it a try, and I really enjoyed it.
Notes To Myself is a good example of the fact that people are all the same internally. You might be from Japan, Chile, Portugal, Canada, Vietnam ? you name it. At the end of the day, we face the same internal struggles.
11. Mastery by George Leonard
Like Watts, George Leonard was also inspired by Zen. And his approach to life, learning, and mastery, is one that I?ve learned to appreciate a lot recently.
To me, it?s never about external things like praise, likes, sales, views, etc. Self-awareness has no end-destination. It?s about the process.
12. What I Talk About When I Talk About Running by Haruki Murakami
You might think, ?what does a book about running have to do with self-awareness?? To that, I say: Read this book.
It?s difficult to summarize What I Talk About When I Talk About Running other than that it?s a look inside the mind of a human being. It?s worth reading even if you don?t like running or Murakami. This is one of my all-time favorite books because it?s the most honest book I?ve read.
As you can see, there are no books about self-knowledge or self-awareness on this list. The best way to develop self-knowledge is to look inwardly. Do that enough, and you?ll know yourself better.
Yes, you can read about the thoughts of other people for inspiration. But remember they are NOT YOU.
To know yourself, you must follow that little voice inside of you. You might not hear it yet, but it?s definitely there.
You just have to find it. Within.
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