A soft penis is a functional penis.
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He trailed his index finger along my side. Creating a zigzagging pattern of goosebumps from breast to thigh. My body is very responsive to his touch. It has been since our very first time.
He is a very attentive lover. Narrating his every move, to ensure that I feel safe and comfortable. Taking his time, prioritizing pleasure above orgasm. Discovering my erogenous zones, one by one.
We have been enjoying an intermission following a round of very satisfying sex. And now I am ready for more.
Ana Beln?s Lia (Bolero) is playing softly in the background as I straddle him. Settling into my favorite position. His penis is resting between my labia pressed firmly against my clit. He holds onto my hips as I begin to make slow circles in time with the music.
But his penis refuses to rise to the occasion.
This is not unusual.
The refractory period (a.k.a. the resolution phase) is the rest period after orgasm. Where the body rejuvenates itself before its ready to be sexually aroused again.
This phase tends to be longer for penises than vaginas.
But I don?t mind.
I happen to love flaccid penises! Because penetration is only one kind of sex. There are also plenty of other ways to be penetrated that do not involve a penis.
A soft penis should not halt sex.
The penis-based sex model that many of us are accustomed to, is outdated and problematic. Centering the penis has sidelined female pleasure for a very long time. And quite frankly it?s the leading cause of sexual stress and frustration in men.
A soft penis is a functional penis.
This idea that a man is not a man if he cannot attain an erection is ludicrous. Yet men experience erection shame, all the time. I?m not just talking about the men who can only have one round of sex. I am also talking about men who experience erectile dysfunction.
Performance anxiety is real.
The inability to achieve and maintain a strong erection impacts self-esteem in a huge way. Men often feel embarrassed. Some are even traumatized. Their partners often feel obligated to perform emotional labor to help them feel better.
It?s a vicious cycle.
But I digress?
A soft penis is a functional penis.
Pleasure is still available whether there?s a hard dick in the room or not. Sex is so much more than ?penis in vagina.?
You can play with toys and food. Fingers and tongues. Tantra and sensual touch. There are so many options.
Soft dick sex can still be an incredibly pleasurable experience.
Still not convinced?
Here are some super simple feel-good ways to enjoy a flaccid penis:
Get Oral
There is something quite intimate about taking a soft penis into my mouth. The texture and sensation are amazing! And it feels good to my partner.
Of course, the technique is different. You cannot handle a soft penis the way you handle an erect one. You should be more gentle unless otherwise instructed.
As an added bonus, there is no gag reflex! And it?s much easier on the jaw as well.
I strongly recommend humming? guys love that! The vibration can be really pleasurable when the penis is soft.
And in case you didn?t know a soft penis can ejaculate.
That?s right, an erection is not required for a penis to ejaculate. So feel free to lick, suck, and blow right to the finish line!
Soft Entry
A soft penis can be stuffed into the vagina with little to no resistance. Which can provide pleasure for the giver and the receiver.
It can be a bit more challenging to stuff a flaccid penis into the anus, but it?s not impossible. If you are both willing, I say go for it!
Don?t forget the lube! Use lots and lots of lube.
Go slow. There?s no rush.
Be gentle. No banging necessary.
The sensation of soft, slow, and gentle with a flaccid penis will blow your mind!
Among other things.
Skin-to-skin
Skin is the largest organ in the human body. It?s also the largest sex organ. And touch is often the entry point of arousal.
You can turn the heat up full blast with the touch of your hands. I?m talking strokes and tickles. Massages and taps. Or simply pressing your skin against your lover?s skin.
Notice the difference in temperature between your bodies.
Play with pressure. Tight. Smooth. Light. Rough.
Expect goosebumps, sweat, and gratification.
And I double-dog-dare you to pay extra attention to the neck, ears, nipples, and the back of the knees.
YUM!
Rub-a-dub-dub
I love it when my lover rubs his penis against my clitoris, especially when it?s soft. The gentle sensation is very arousing. And a flaccid penis can rub a clit without fear of being too rough.
Men also enjoy having their penises touched, even when they?re soft. So handjobs are always a good idea!
Be open to giving and receiving direction with regard to the kind of touch that?s desired.
And don?t forget the balls!
Massaging and playing with balls is fun and it feels good too.
Forecast: 100% chance of pleasure and potential orgasmic showers.
?A positive sexual experience is best measured by pleasure, not the firmness of your penis? ? Dr Kristin Zeising
A soft penis offers an opportunity to play, practice and explore.
It can charge the erotic spark, ignite creative energy, and deepen intimacy.
When you take away the pressure to perform, you are free to relax and enjoy.
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Stacey Herrera is a relationship-ing practitioner, jalapeo junkie, and chronic library fine payer. She?s also an Intimacy + REALationship coach residing in the Port of Los Angeles. Sign-up to her newsletter for updates.
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