Do you like nerdy girls? If so, you?re not alone. A lot of guys are into smart, geeky, game-playing, fiction-reading nerds.
But where do you find these beautiful, sexy, nerdy girls? And, once you find them, how do you get them to be attracted to you?
That?s what this article is all about: finding and attracting nerdy girls. It?s something I know a lot about. I?ve counseled hundreds of young men on how to talk to girls, how to find the types of girls they want, and how to come across as attractive without changing who they are. And I like nerdy girls, myself. I?ve dated a lot of nerdy women over the years. I can tell you with absolute certainty that, if you follow this advice, you?ll get yourself a nerdy girl.
Now, before we talk about attracting them, let?s explore why so many guys like nerdy girls.
Perks of dating a nerdy girl
The reason why so many guys like nerdy girls is pretty straightforward. We like them because they either share the exact same interests as us or very similar interests.
If you spend your free time playing Dungeons and Dragons, reading sci-fi and fantasy novels, or watching Harry Potter movies, it?s natural to want someone to share those interests with.
And, not only will a nerdy girl share in your interests, she?ll also expose you to hers. Maybe she?s into Pathfinder and you?ve never played before. You start playing with her and before long, you?re totally into it.
Having a nerdy girlfriend can help you to discover brand new nerdy activities to engage in. She?ll teach you about all her nerdy hobbies and you can teach her about all of yours.
When you have shared interests with your girlfriend, everything is easier. Picking a movie, for example, can be difficult for a lot of couples. If you and your girlfriend are both nerds, it won?t be hard to agree on what movies and TV shows to watch.
These are just some of the perk of dating a nerd. Now, let?s look at where to find nerdy girls.
Where to find nerdy girls
Beautiful, single, nerdy girls are hard to find, right?
Wrong! They?re incredibly easy to find if you know where to look. If you?re having trouble finding nerdy girls, you?re not looking in the right places.
Before we get to where to find nerdy girls, you need to know where you won?t find them. First and foremost, you?re not going to find them sitting at home. If you want to meet nerdy girls, you have to leave the house.
You?re also unlikely to meet them where non-nerdy girls hang out. Clubs, bars, the mall, and other spots like these are all great for meeting girls ? just not nerdy girls.
So, where do nerdy girls hang out? The same places that nerdy guys do: game shops, bookstores, arcades, conventions, and other similar spots.
If you want to find a nerdy girl, you have to go to where they?re at. Most of the time, they?re doing the same thing that you are ? sitting around at home doing nerdy things, wondering where all the good nerdy guys are.
To meet a hot, nerdy girl, start hanging out at your local game shop or bookstore. Conventions are also a great place to meet like-minded girls, but they only come around every so often. Put yourself in situations where you?re likely to run into nerdy girls.
Of course, finding nerdy girls is only half the battle: You also have to attract them.
How to attract nerdy girls
When my nerdy guy friends see a different, cute, nerdy girl on my arm every time they run into me, they often ask me how I do it. They don?t understand what it is about me that nerdy girls find so attractive.
What attracts nerdy girls is the same things that attract all girls. There are a handful of traits that all girls are attracted to. And the good news? All of those traits can be developed if you work on them. Any guy can learn to attract tons of women ? even hot, nerdy, geeky women.
So, what are these mysterious traits? First and foremost: confidence. Women are attracted to confident guys ? there?s no question about it.
Confidence comes from past successes. The more successful you are, the more confident you?ll be. But, what if you?ve never been particularly successful with girls?
Fake it till you make it. Even if you?re not, act confident. Pretend like you know what you?re doing. All women are biologically programmed to find confidence to be sexy and attractive. It is the single most important trait you can develop when it comes to attracting girls ? including nerdy girls.
Another thing that all women find attractive is ambition. If you play video games for eight hours a day because you?re training for an upcoming tournament, that?s ambition and women are drawn to it. If you play for eight hours a day because you?ve got nothing else going on, women will think you?re a loser with no life.
Here are the traits that all girls ? including nerdy girls ? are attracted to:
- Good posture
- Strength (muscles, abs, etc.)
- Protecting of women and children
If you want to understand why women are attracted to these traits, evolutionary biology has all the answers. For most of human history, women needed men for protection and to mate with. A strong, confident, and courageous man would be able to protect his woman a lot better than one who was weak and timid.
In today?s world, women don?t have to rely on men for protection. However, their biology hasn?t caught up with the realities of modern life. Women are still physically and emotionally attracted to the same types of men that they would?ve been thousands of years ago.
If you want to attract women ? nerdy women included ? you need to develop at least some of the traits listed above. You don?t need to have all of those things but, if you want nerdy girls to find you attractive, you have to have some of them.
Again, confidence is key. The more, the better. The more you believe in yourself, the more attractive you?ll be to nerdy girls. This is what will separate you from all the other guys who are sitting around, drooling over the sexy nerdy girls.
Just by having the confidence and courage to walk up to them and start talking will put you way ahead of the competition. Most guys just admire them from afar. By walking right up to a nerdy girl and introducing yourself, you?ve communicated that you?re confident, courageous, and ambitious ? all traits that women find irresistible.
Yeah, but what about looks? Guess what: They?re not nearly as important as you may think they are. If you look around, you?ll see plenty of ugly dudes walking around with gorgeous women. How did they get them? By displaying the traits listed above.
That being said, you should always try to look your best. If you?re going out to meet girls, wear your favorite shirt, trim your beard, and do whatever else you need to do to look and feel your best. But don?t think that you can?t attract nerdy girls because of the way you look. Confidence, ambition, leadership, and all the other qualities listed above are much more important than looks.
Dating a nerdy girl
So, you?ve met a nerdy girl by going to where they are and attracted her by displaying some of the qualities listed above. Now what?
Now it?s time to take her out on a date. If you really like the girl, you?re going to want to really blow her mind. Fortunately, it won?t be very hard to do that.
Don?t take her out for a drink or to dinner ? unless you want her to be bored. Plan a fun, nerdy date that both of you will enjoy. Nerdy girls don?t want to have to make a lot of decisions on dates, especially if it?s your first one together. By planning out a fun date for the two of you, she can stay focused on what?s really important: getting to know you and, above all else, having fun.
Countless men have shaken their fist at the sky and yelled, ?What do women want?? Cindy Lauper answered this question for the world in the early 1980s: Girls Just Want To Have Fun! Show a girl a good time, make her laugh, have fun, and she?s yours. It?s really that simple. Girls want to feel good and they want to feel safe. If you can do that, you can get the nerdy girl of your dreams.
To keep her attracted to you, you need to continue displaying the traits listed above. If you maintain your confidence, you?ll maintain her attraction. You want to come across as in-control of yourself and the situations you find yourself in.
Don?t be afraid to lead. Remember, leadership is one of the qualities that women are attracted to. Plan out a fun date, stay calm and confident, lead the conversation and, most importantly, have fun! If you?re feeling relaxed and having a good time, she will, too.
Landing yourself a nerdy girlfriend might seem like an impossible quest, but it?s not. By following everything you just read, you?ll be well on your way to getting the nerdy girlfriend you?ve always desired.
I?m going to mention it one more time because it is so important: you need to display confidence. Nothing is more attractive to a woman than a guy who believes in himself.
Look at it this way: If you don?t believe in yourself, why should she or anyone else? Confidence is attractive and, if you can?t find it within yourself, she won?t be able to find it, either.
The traits listed above come naturally to some guys but, for most of us, they don?t. Fortunately, they can be cultivated. We all have them within us: We just need to learn to bring them out for the world to see. I?m not going to lie ? it takes time and effort. But, let me tell you, it?s sooo worth it. There are a lot of great online resources that will help you bring out these traits. This website (that I?m not affiliated with in any way) is a great place to start.
Once you?ve brought your inner confidence outward, go hang out where the nerdy girls are. When you see one that you like, go talk to her. If you are feeling a connection, ask her out. And when you go out, plan out a fun date and make sure you both have a good time.
That?s all there is to it. It might seem impossible at first but, I assure you, it?s not. I, myself, used to think that it was hard to meet and attract hot, nerdy girls. But, ever since I learned and put all the above into practice, I?ve dated lots of wonderful nerds ? and so can you!
If you consider yourself to be an introvert and feel your introversion is getting in the way of your dating success, you may want to read the following: Courting Quietly ? Dating Advice For Introverts.